I’m back at creating editorial content!
[of course I’ll be continue the #girlpowerseries–but friday will now be for regular content]
this look:: vintage leopard fur [a serious find, but here is similar] // tshirt via target // bralette via For Love and Lemons, similar here // faux leather leggings via Spanx–these are miracle pants // black scarf, stolen from my mother // photo credit:: Nyck Renard
Xo, Flancake
Girl em[Power]ment – A Series of Short Essays.
Over the next few months Flancake.co will be bringing you the Girl em[Power]ment series, which consists of interviews with several working women of all ages in different stages of their career. These are women I not only find inspiring and interesting, but who I think women of all ages should know about and learn from. These women hold careers in several different industries, from creative design to politics.They’ll give us an inside look into what their job is like, how they got there, share their advice for twenty-somethings, and touch on what Girl em[Power]ment means to them.
[be sure to follow along on insta for updates – @girlempowerment]
Our next influencer is a fellow blogger, and a gal with serious style–Chloe Curnel. I’ve been following Chloe on insta for a few years now, after initially seeing her fab style via a boutique she worked at. It’s been so fun following along as she’s graduated, moved to a new place + started a cool job, and recently got engaged! Keep reading to learn more about this fab fashionista who’s with it.
Introducing Chloe Curnel, of Dillard’s Corporate
Insta – @chloeelisec
Blog – Nomad en Vogue
Q: What is your current job title, and can you please briefly explain your career path?
A: I am a fashion stylist for Dillard’s corporate advertising. I graduated from the University of Arkansas in 2013. Before graduation, I went through the career center at the University and interviewed for Dillard’s Executive Development Program (EDP). I landed the job and in June, started working in the Div. 4 buying office as an assistant buyer as part of the program. Phase two of the program, I was sent to work as an Area Sales Manager at the Dillard’s flagship store in Little Rock. It was when I was out at the store that I decided I did not want to return to the buying office. So I left the program, and voiced to upper managment that I wanted to work in the advertising department. I interviewed with the Vice-President of Advertising, Creative Director, and Studio director at Dillard’s and was offered the position of fashion stylist this past January.
Q: Where did you go to school and what was your major?
A: I was an apparel studies major at the University of Arkansas.
Q: How do you deal with negativity towards women in the work place [if at all]?
A: Luckily, I haven’t many encounters with this, but I am a firm believer in actions speak louder than words. Work hard, be kind, be professional, and that is what will make you successful in your career. Don’t give anyone a reason to treat you differently just because your a women. A co-worker gave me some wise advice. She said that “As women, we have to build each other up. Make each other stronger, and praise each other for accomplishment.” This is SO true and SO important. Women have a tendency of letting envy and jealousy get the best of them in the workplace. We can’t do that, we have to stick together and help each other learn and grow.
Q: Who are your mentors or role models, and why?
A: My mom, Karen Curnel, for her caring and loving spirit, and her ability to follow her passions. She just decided to take up horseback riding in her fifties! She is not afraid to try something new.
My sister, Kelly Stuckey. She is driven, artistic, and stays true to herself. She has the most giving spirit and makes an amazing leader. It has been so inspiring to see her career path grow. [see Kelly’s profile here]
My old boss and dear friend, Becca Brisiel. She also, has such a kind, giving spirit. She was the best boss I will ever have. She lead by example. She taught me the importance of staying true to yourself, as well as the importance of kindness in the workplace and giving back to your community.
Q: Have you ever felt unsure of yourself or felt that you weren’t “enough”, and how did you overcome that?
A: When I was working as an area sales manager at Dillard’s, I had multiple times where I felt unsure about my managing skills. I had 18 employees under me, and at times, was in charge of the whole store. I had employees of all ages and backgrounds, and sometimes it was difficult for me to be confident, demand respect, and feel in charge. I am by nature not a confrontational person, and being a manger puts you in some confrontational situations where there is a need to be authoritative. I had to overcome the fact the I was young and lacked experience. Everyday I learned something new about my team and myself. When I would make a mistake, I would do my best to learn from it. I sought out help from my bosses and fellow co-workers when I needed it, asking “How would you handle this situation?”. I learned that I couldn’t manage everyone the same and that it would take different tactics to gain respect from my employees. It was the most difficult job I think I will ever have to do, but it is the job that taught me the most.
Q: What are other things you do [hobbies, projects, interest] that you feel passionate about?
A: Yoga, photography, fashion, antique shopping. I also have a style blog called Nomad en Vogue. It is just a hobby, but it is a great creative outlet. I’m planning a wedding right now, which has turned into my biggest hobby, or should I say “time consumer” at the moment! Hah!
Q: Is there anyone you think that is making a difference in women empowerment that you think we should all know about?
A: My sister, Kelly Stuckey! She owns a small business in Fayetteville called Crown Beauty Bar. She empowers women everyday at work and through social media!
Q: What do you do in your free time to relax?
A: Just give me HGTV, a glass of wine and some cheese. Just kidding! But, not really. I love to antique shop, usually alone. I could wander around looking at antiques forever. But I feel the most relaxed when I’m with my fiance and our dog, Bella.
Q: What career and/or life advice would you give to your twenty-year-old self?
A: Don’t sweat the small things, and don’t worry about what you can’t control. Also, don’t worry so much about what others think because you can’t make everyone happy. Stay true to who you are, be kind, work hard, and always look for the positive. Also, take care of your body and wear sunscreen everyday because the wrinkles will come!
Q: What does Girl em[Power]ment mean to you?
A: Girl em[Power]ment is all about us gals supporting each other and building each other up. The internet is can be such a positive or negative tool. With all the negativity that resides on social media, it is SO important for girls to take a stand and not take part in it. Life is hard enough, we need to use the tools we have to empower one another.
As Chloe said, it’s so important to support each other + build each other up, which really is what Girl em[Power]ment is all about!! Stay tuned for the next influencer, and be sure to follow along on our insta–@girlempowerment.
[graphic by the talented Courtney Ulrich]
Girl em[Power]ment – A Series of Short Essays.
Over the next few months Flancake.co will be bringing you the Girl em[Power]ment series, which consists of interviews with several working women of all ages in different stages of their career. These are women I not only find inspiring and interesting, but who I think women of all ages should know about and learn from. These women hold careers in several different industries, from creative design to politics.They’ll give us an inside look into what their job is like, how they got there, share their advice for twenty-somethings, and touch on what Girl em[Power]ment means to them.
[be sure to follow along on insta – @girlempowerment]
The next influencer is the spunky Katy Nelson, whom I’ve had the privilege of knowing through my mother for a few years now. I’ve always known Katy was with it, and when I came to college I was able to figure this out even more. She’s helped to guide me through several challenges throughout my college career and help me grow along the way. She’s such a smart and giving woman in way more than one way, so I’m thrilled to share her profile.
Introducing Katy Nelson, with the University of Arkansas.
Q: What is your current job title, and can you please briefly explain your career path?
A: Assistant Vice Chancellor for Development at the University of Arkansas – After I graduated from college in 1987, I moved to Washington, DC because there were several alumni who also lived there. I held several administrative jobs and decided I should get a graduate degree because the job market was so competitive. I really wasn’t that good at administrative work and I didn’t enjoy it. I received a graduate assistantship and moved back to Fayetteville in 1990 to get a Master’s Degree in Communication. While in graduate school, I taught two freshman level communication courses and tutored athletes. I discovered there are staff careers in higher education and decided to move to Austin, Texas in 1993 (again because I had several friends who lived there). I also tutored athletes until I landed a job as an Academic Advisor in the College of Natural Sciences. I joined the Academic Counselor’s Association and volunteered to be on the planning committee for our annual conference. I got to know my colleagues and built my professional network.
After a few years in this role, I became the Coordinator of High School Outreach and Recruiting for the McCombs School of Business at UT. I met with prospective students, parents, hosted admissions sessions, and traveled to cities throughout Texas. We had an emphasis on diversity, and I had to raise money for our programs. This is how I got my introduction to fundraising. The Dean of McCombs reorganized the Development Office and I was hired as the Director of Corporate Relations. I was in this role for eight years before I moved back to Arkansas in 2007 to be the Senior Director of Development and External Relations for the Sam M. Walton College of Business. In 2013 I was promoted to Assistant Vice Chancellor. I manage the fundraising efforts of the colleges and Corporate and Foundation Relations. I also provide strategic oversight of interdisciplinary, strategic objectives, and manage relationships with key donors.
Q: Where did you go to school and what was your major?
A: University of Arkansas, B.A. and M.A. in Communication
Q: How do you deal with negativity towards women in the work place [if at all]?
A: I have been fortunate in that I really have not experienced negativity because I am female. One reason could be that there are generally more women in student service and development roles in higher education than men. I have also had many colleagues who are“strong”, competent women who have been recognized for their accomplishments.
Q: Who are your role models or mentors, and why?
A: Char Dison was one of my mentors at UT Austin. She taught me two very valuable lessons: 1) pick your battles; 2) never burn your bridges. The first one is important because there are always going to be processes, procedures, and people who bother you in the workplace and you simply can’t fight them all. You have to let the little annoyances go and focus on what you really believe in and how you can make a difference. The second one is important because you may be opposed to one person on any given day but have to work with them in a team the next. You also never know who your boss might be one day. I know of colleagues who acted unprofessionally toward another person, and that person became their boss later. Needless to say, they were fired shortly thereafter.
Q: Have you ever felt unsure of yourself or felt that you weren’t “enough”, and how did you overcome that?
A: There have been several occasions when I have been working on a special project and I wasn’t sure how to approach it. Sometimes it was due to lack of confidence in my ability, other times the task seemed overwhelming and daunting. I like to talk through issues, challenges, etc. with others to get their ideas for solutions. Others can offer a fresh perspective.
Q: What are other things you do [hobbies, projects, interest] that you feel passionate about?
A: I like to ride on the Razorback Greenway, hike, and do yoga. I also like going to classes at Clubhaus gym. I am a social person and the group classes are a good fit for me.
Q: What career and/or life advice would you give to your twenty-year-old self?
A: Your first job out of college does not have to be your career job. If I had not had the administrative positions in DC, I may not have gone back to graduate school. Graduate school led me to a career in higher education. I think finding the right career can involve trial and error. Try something and if you don’t like it, move on. Be respectful and professional to everyone, even if they drive you crazy and you don’t like them.
Q: What does Girl em[Power]ment mean to you?
A: Girls can be confident leaders.
[don’t be left out – @girlempowerment has you covered]
graphic by the talented Courtney Ulrich
I’m so excited to share with you all that I’m partnering with NWA Boutique Fashion Show this year! Even more exciting, I’m having a GIVEAWAY!! If you live in or around the NWA area, this one is for you. From now until Tuesday, Oct 27 you have a chance to win two passes to the NWA Boutique Show Girls Night Out event!
Girls Night Out is a portion of the NWA Boutique Show that takes place Friday, Nov 6 from 5-9pm at the NWA Convention Center [1500 S 48th Street, Springdale AR]. Passes to this event not only grant you door prizes, private shopping, free return admission to the actual shopping on Saturday, a DJ, a catered treats AND a cash only bar–but the event benefits the Junior League of NWA, as well as the Salvation Army Women’s Auxiliary!
TO ENTER x WIN TWO GIRLS NIGHT OUT PASSES:
-Follow @NWABoutiqueShow x @Flancake on insta
-Like and tag a friend on @Flancake’s instagram post
That’s all! Winner will be announced//contacted via instagram Wed. Oct 28 so the passes can be sent to you!!
MORE INFORMATION ABOUT NWA BOUTIQUE SHOW:
This is the biggest shopping event of the season! Over 150 merchants will be in attendance, along with thousands of one-of-a-kind custom items to shop from. Home decor, gifts, clothing, gourmet food, holiday decor, children’s items, art and more. The 11th show will be held Nov 6 and 7, at the NWA Convention Center in Springdale, Ar.
There are three shopping events, plus general admission shopping.
[learn more via NWA Boutique’s Website, Facebook, and Instagram]
VIP Shopping: Friday Nov 6, 9-11am [$25 at the door//$20 online] Benefits the Junior League of NWA
Get first dibs on all of the best shopping, live music, swag bag, cinnamon rolls from Cinnabon by Schlotzky’s, Mama Carmen’s coffee, free general admission all weekend and more.
Girls Night Out: Friday Nov 6, 5-9pm [$15 at the door//$10 online] Benefits the Junior Civic League. Enjoy door prizes, private shopping, a DJ, free return admission on Saturday, catered treats, and a cash bar.
Cookies With Santa: Saturday Nov 7, 10am-2pm, included with General Admission Ticket [$5] plus donations to the Salvation Army Women’s Auxiliary. Kids can enjoy cookies and have their picture taken with Santa!
General Admission: Friday Nov 6, 11am-5pm and Saturday Nov 7, 9am-6pm [$5 at the door]
Good luck, and hope to see you all at these events!
Xo, Flancake
[photo credit:: Nyck Renard]
Girl em[Power]ment – A Series of Short Essays.
Over the next few months Flancake.co will be bringing you the Girl em[Power]ment series, which consists of interviews with several working women of all ages in different stages of their career. These are women I not only find inspiring and interesting, but who I think women of all ages should know about and learn from. These women hold careers in several different industries, from creative design to politics. They’ll give us an inside look into what their job is like, how they got there, share their advice for twenty-somethings, and touch on what Girl em[Power]ment means to them.
[be sure to follow along on insta – @girlempowerment]
Our next influencer is someone I’m so excited to share with you all, as she was one of the inspirations for the entire Girl em[Power]ment series!! I have known Kelly Stuckey for about four years now, when I first met her via instagram stalking and just HAD to get her to help my hair. She has a heart of gold, she is a giving soul like none I’ve ever seen, and her strong faith inspires those around her, myself included. Oh, and she’s a small business owner + wife + puppy mom, to all of which she excels tremendously. Those around her feel her radiance on a daily basis, which is why I’m so glad she is today’s influencer.
Introducing Kelly Stuckey, owner of Crown Beauty Bar
Insta – @hellokellystuckey + @crownbeautybar
Website – CrownBeautyBar + SheSitsPretty
Q: What is your current job title, and can you please briefly explain your career path?
A: My current title is Senior Hairstylist, makeup artist and co-owner of Crown Beauty Bar with my husband, Zac Stuckey. I am also a certified educator for Davines Hair Color and She by Socap Hair Extensions. My career path started at a young age of 14 working for my Dad’s photography studio and has taken so many turns from salon receptionist to Interior Designer to PepsiCo modular planner to CitiScapes advertising sales to restaurant hostess while attending beauty school and now a small business owner. It’s incredible and encouraging to see the way it has all come together in my life, and how each step paved the way for the next. Every place I worked I met people who played into my next role and even met my husband along the way!
Q: Where did you go to school and what was your major?
A: I first attended the University of Arkansas Fort Smith and received an Associates of Art. Then I transferred to the University of Arkansas and graduated with a Bachelors of Interior Design. Three years later I attended Paul Mitchell The School Arkansas for my Cosmetology License.
Q: How do you deal with negativity towards women in the work place [if at all]?
A: Thankfully I work in a female dominant environment where we get along and lift each other up! The most negativity I ever deal with is when a client doesn’t like things about their own hair and or looks. I love enhancing each woman’s individual beauty and teaching them ways to carry that home. I want to shatter any negative images they have about themselves.
Q: Who are your role models or mentors, and why?
A: My first impactful role model is my Mother, Karen. She was and still is always there for me. I know stories of how she worked hard and did what she could to provide and take care of me after my parents split at a young age. She always made me feel beautiful and supported especially during times when I struggled with my weight, career, or life choices.
I would say my biggest mentor is my husband, Zac. He is a strong, steady constant in my life and has a true servant heart. He pushes me to be better and is always incredibly supportive. It’s incredibly cheesy to say, but he does make me feel like anything is possible so long as we do it together; he gives me wings! I love owning a business with him, doing life, and can’t wait to become a parent with him next April!!!
Q: Have you ever felt unsure of yourself or felt that you weren’t “enough”, and how did you overcome that?
A: Oh yes, a lot when I was younger. In fact, I still struggle with this insecurity from time to time. I didn’t know my true identity until I really let God into my life and got serious about pursuing a relationship with Jesus at age 28. Anytime I allow the lies of this world to fill my mind, I stumble into insecurity. I remind myself the truth is I was made by God and for his purposes… before I understood that, nothing made sense. Now I read and reflect on what his Word says about me for affirmation on who I am.
Q: Is there anyone you think that is making a difference in women empowerment that you think we should all know about?
A: It’s amazing to live in a community with so many female small business owners and creatives in my local community! Here’s a few businesses to check out: Kirsten Blowers owner of Riffraff, Amy Hannon of EunaMae’s, Valere Gregory of Valere Rene Handbags, Becca Brisiel of Maude Boutique, Chelsea Hermez of Pigmint. Another woman shaking things up in California is Shanna Noel, creator of Illustrated Faith, helping creative women express themselves and learn more about God’s Word through a journaling bible.
Q: What do you do in your free time to relax?
A: Walk my dogs, jeep rides with my husband, read, doodle in my journaling bible, zone out on social media.
Q: What career and/or life advice would you give to your twenty-year-old self?
A: Be patient, work hard, do not expect anything, and be thankful for every opportunity to learn. We all graduate and think “okay, I made it.. now where is my awesome job and salary?” It’s just not that easy all the time! I truly believe in hard, honest work and being a self-starter. The other thing is: your 20’s are just awkward! I had so much fun in my 20’s, but so much confusing unknown too. It’s not that I have it all figured out in my 30’s now, but I am more secure in myself and truly trust God has plans for me.
Q: What does Girl em[Power]ment mean to you?
A: Girl em[Power]ment means looking past the stereotypes created by the world and other people to see who I am and what God created me to be. I have been given gifts and talents to use to help others and it’s up to me to make that happen with every opportunity that I am presented with! I love working in an industry where I can make women feel beautiful and teach them tricks they can use at home to create their look on a daily basis. I also want to empower my employees to be self-starters, find the lesson in every situation, and take ownership of the career and life they have a heart for. You can’t sit and wait for everything to fall into your lap. You gotta hustle while keeping your eyes and ears open.
Girl em[Power]ment – A Series of Short Essays.
Over the next few months Flancake.co will be bringing you the Girl em[Power]ment series, which consists of interviews with several working women of all ages in different stages of their career. These are women I not only find inspiring and interesting, but who I think women of all ages should know about and learn from. These women hold careers in several different industries, from creative design to politics.They’ll give us an inside look into what their job is like, how they got there, share their advice for twenty-somethings, and touch on what Girl em[Power]ment means to them.
[be sure to follow along on insta – @girlempowerment]
Our next influencer is Linda Denton, an amazing women I’ve known for as long as I can remember from my hometown. She’s a small business owner but has been in several different fields, so she’s knows a thing or two about success.
Introducing Linda Denton, of Pony Express Printing & Supplies
Q: What is your current job title, and can you please briefly explain your career path?
A: I am the owner and operator of Pony Express Printing & Supplies in Mena, AR. This spring will be my 20th anniversary and I feel blessed to have a business I enjoy and continually get to meet new people- some have watched my family grow and been there for each milestone.
Q: Where did you go to school and what was your major?
A: My background is in science. I graduated from Texas A&M University in College Station, TX in 1991 with a B.S. in Biomedical Science. Seems like a stretch doesn’t it? I love science and attended college with the desire to become a veterinarian. After working in some ‘kill’ clinics and with numerous heart-breaking cases I declared NOT to continue with that career goal. I enjoyed the coursework though and remained in a pre-medical science background. This led to a lot of research work which in turn helped me land a job with Johnson Space Center in Houston, TX. I loved it! I also found myself in charge of typing proposals, research presentations, and proposals [at that time it was a hobby- typing/formatting/design].
Q: How do you deal with negativity towards women in the work place [if at all]?
A: My focus is on doing the best job I can. There are occasions where I think the situation lends better for male-to-male interaction and truthfully it raises my blood pressure but I am not sure I want to change that. I have to focus on me: be plain-spoken, have good intentions, state the nature of my concern, and prove that I am capable of providing or performing the task[s] asked of me. An “I CAN” attitude goes a long way.
Q: Who are three of your mentors or role models, and why?
A: My father. He taught me I can do anything I set my mind on and not to sell myself short. Jean ‘Tex’ Narlo, my friends mother, who had a Merle Norman store in Tyler, TX. She was successful as an entrepreneur but was driven to keep exploring her passions and business opportunities [some a success and some just another lesson]. My final mentor is ever evolving. There have been a number of women that I have admired and consider worthy of mentioning mostly because they seem to effortlessly balance motherhood/career/household/and Christian role model.
Q: What are other things you do [hobbies, projects, interest] that you feel passionate about?
A: I love to complete crafting projects. The DIY channel is my downfall and addiction. To make or build something [my headboard for example] lets me relieve stress, work through emotions and end up with a project I can take pride in completing.
Q: Is there anyone you think that is making a difference in women empowerment that you think we should all know about?
A: At my age, I am thankful for the grey haired ladies who spent their years being a mother and being happy with that title. There is job that we females take on when we have children. My most important position is that of Mother. I want to instill love, family and hard-work in my children and that ‘home’ is a cherished institution. My hat is off to all women and I realize we each have our own goals, dreams, and desires.
Q: What do you do in your free time to relax?
A: I love being outside and enjoying walks, fishing, or just playing with my youngest child.
Q: What career and/or life advice would you give to your twenty-year-old self?
A: Listen more, talk less. Give more and recognize your blessings and say ‘thank you’.
Q: What does Girl em[Power]ment mean to you?
A: Girl em[Power]ment means feeling comfortable with who you are, striving for more, and taking on challenges that you believe in – make a difference.
I think we could all take Linda’s advice to give more, recognize our blessings and say ‘thank you’. I know I can!
Stay tuned for our next influencer–be sure to follow along on insta @girlempowerment.
Xo, Flancake
[graphic in collaboration with Courtney Ulrich of Alligator Food Design]
[don’t be left out – follow @girlempowerment for updates]
Girl em[Power]ment – A Series of Short Essays.
Over the next few months Flancake.co will be bringing you the Girl em[Power]ment series, which consists of interviews with several working women of all ages in different stages of their career. These are women I not only find inspiring and interesting, but who I think women of all ages should know about and learn from. These women hold careers in several different industries, from creative design to politics. They’ll give us an inside look into what their job is like, how they got there, share their advice for twenty-somethings, and touch on what Girl em[Power]ment means to them.
[be sure to follow along on insta – @girlempowerment]
I’m so excited to be sharing with you all our next influencer, Hope Cavell. I’ve known this fab + funny gal for about three-ish years now, first through school and then through working together at Lola. She’s a ball to be around, and always exudes kindness + confidence, with such creativity and grace it’s hard to not have if rub off on you.
Introducing Hope Cavell, of Lola Boutique
Insta – @hopecavelll + @lolaboutique
Q: What is your current job title, and can you please briefly explain your career path?
A: I am the store manager at Lola in Fayetteville, Arkansas and also work as a stylist under my own name doing closets, etc. Within Lola, I dabble in social media and visuals [you often wear many hats in a small business!] I started working retail when I was 16 and have been doing so ever since. I’m lucky enough to have worked at two fabulous local boutiques prior to Lola. Different products, different clientele…but always fashion forward women’s clothing. My career path is foggy right now but I hope to transfer from the retail sector of things to more styling and creative work.
Q: Where did you go to school and what was your major?
A: I went to the University of Arkansas and majored in Apparel Studies and Product Development. I also have a minor in Beer.
Q: How do you deal with negativity towards women in the work place [if at all]?
A: Overall, I’m a glass-half-full gal so I have that working for me. Sometimes you can ignore it and other times you can’t. Those times that you cannot, it may be time to reevaluate your situation or talk to someone in charge. Sometimes a little bit of action is all that’s needed. I’ve yet to be exposed to a male heavy work environment where women feel that negative pressure…let’s hope I never do!
Q: Who are your role models or mentors, and why?
A: My parents. They are amazing. And Lena Dunham.
Q: Have you ever felt unsure of yourself or felt that you weren’t “enough”, and how did you overcome that?
A: Yes….who hasn’t!? I still struggle with this. Comparing myself to others gets me in a dark place sometimes. I have to yank myself out of it and remember that everyone’s path is different and I am on the right one for me.
Q: What are other things you do [hobbies, projects, interest] that you feel passionate about?
A: Fashion, art, friends and family.
Q: Is there anyone you think that is making a difference in women empowerment that you think we should all know about?
A: As earlier mentioned– Lena Dunham. She is smart but that creative smart that makes you think and laugh and feel. I don’t always agree with her politics or opinions but I respect her and look up to her for them. She’s taken her fame and created this platform for young women….that being themselves and having their own opinions is cool and sexy. Because it is!! Check out her newest venture in all this– Lenny Letter– an online newsletter via email.
Q: What do you do in your free time to relax?
A: Sometimes it’s a glass of wine, chatting with my momma while loving on my dog. Other times it’s a run outside full of explicit rap music.
Q: What does Girl em[Power]ment meant to you?
A: Lifting one-another up. That is so cornball but true. Girls are too hard on themselves so anytime you find yourself thinking something nice about someone, tell ’em! We all are going through hard stuff so spreading the girl power is vital. I think about my mom, my sister, my friends, my coworkers…So. Many. Bad. Bitches. I am truly inspired everyday and made better because of them.
Girl em[Power]ment – A Series of Short Essays.
Over the next few months Flancake.co will be bringing you the Girl em[Power]ment series, which consists of interviews with several working women of all ages in different stages of their career. These are women I not only find inspiring and interesting, but who I think women of all ages should know about and learn from. These women hold careers in several different industries, from creative design to politics. They’ll give us an inside look into what their job is like, how they got there, share their advice for twenty-somethings, and touch on what Girl em[Power]ment means to them.
[be sure to follow along on insta – @girlempowerment]
Our next influencer is Nina Copeland, who I’ve gotten to know over the years at Johnson Dermatology. She not only gives great skin advice and has a must-read blog, but is a working mom who’s also got killer style. Nina always has a positive energy about her, and never fails to make me feel at home when visiting her. Keep reading for her [amazing] answers and advice for twenty-somethings.
Introducing, Nina Copeland, of The Skinny On Skin + Johnson Dermatology
Blog – TheSkinnyOnSkin
Q: What is your current job title, and can you please briefly explain your career path?
A: I’m a dermatology nurse practitioner at Johnson Dermatology. I do surgical, cosmetic and general dermatology. I started as a certified nursing assistant at age 16. I worked in hospitals eventually becoming an RN and then a Nurse Practitioner. I have experience in OB/GYN, outpatient surgery, forensic nursing, ICU and the ER. Finally, I’m at my home in dermatology.
Q: Where did you go to school and what was your major?
A: I went to the U of A in Fayetteville where I recieved my Bachelors in the Science of Nursing. I attended UCA in Conway where I earned my Master in the Science of Nursing. I am certified through the American Academy of Nurse Practitioners as a Family Nurse Practitioner.
Q: How do you deal with negativity towards women in the work place [if at all]?
A: I currently work in an office with over 30 women and one man so I don’t encounter this often. But I approach negativity with positivity. I am proud of myself and where I’ve come in my career. While I was pregnant I was often asked if I was going to stay home when the baby arrived. I always responded, “no way! I love my job! I’m going to teach my girls how to juggle it all by example.”
Q: Have you ever felt unsure of yourself or felt that you weren’t “enough”, and how did you overcome that?
A: Everytime I try something new! It’s life and that unknown, unsure feeling is what makes you work hard, learn new things and become a little stronger, smarter and wiser. I definetely use that insecure feeling as fuel.
Q: Who are your role models or mentors that you look up to?
A: My first female role model is my Mom. She came from nothing, put herself through college and became an electrical engineer. She has worked for Texas Instruments, NASA, mulitple colleges and now is a teacher. She worked while my Dad stayed home raising us, now that’s a boss lady! Second is my collaborating physician Dr. Sandy Johnson, she always has a positive attitude. She is my constant reminder of how to be better all around. She is a business woman, a doctor, a wife, a mom and happy. Lastly, Brittney Spears, because if she can get through 2007 I feel I can do the impossible no matter how bad a hair day I have (only sort of kidding, kind of serious).
Q: What are other things you do [hobbies, projects, interest] that you feel passionate about?
A: I have a 5 month old and a 2 year old so right now my passions include potty training and breastfeeding. My interest include getting a shower and my teeth brushed before going to work. And sleep is a real project. Although, I do remember a time when traveling, volunteer work, road biking, barre, wine with friends and running with my husband were all on my favorite to-do list.
Q: Is there anyone you think that is making a difference in women empowerment that you think we should all know about?
A: I think women empowerment is really blossoming in Fort Smith. Look around at all the local women starting their own businesses. Hazels Haven, Suite One, Indie, Roots Salon, Belle Starr Antiques, Baby Chic and Kens & Co. are just a few of my favorite Fort Smith girls that own their successful businesses. Know who your local women business leaders are and support them, that’s what women empowerment is all about!
Q: What do you do in your free time to relax?
A: I love the lake, the pool and massages. I like to meditate. If I get a break I like to just sit outside and think while sipping a cup of vanilla chai tea latte.
Q: What career and/or life advice would you give to your twenty-year-old self?
A: Your actions will follow you and have consequences. Make decisions based on the consequences. Think about where a job will take you not just what that job is. Your twenties are just the beginning and even though it feels like it takes “forever” to get through college or move up in a position or get married or whatever I promise it is just a very brief moment in your life. Time keeps getting shorter and days will seem like hours before you know it!
Q: What does Girl em[Power]ment mean to you?
A: Owning it. By that I mean be confident and own your brand, what you represent. Be humble. Share what you are good at with other women and encourage them to be amazing too. If we support each other the sky is the limit. Have you heard the saying the woman is the neck that turns the head in a family? The truth is women are the brain! We can turn the head and shake the hips simultaneously, heck we run it all!
Stay tuned for Wednesday’s influencer, and I hope you enjoyed hearing from Nina!
Xo, Flancake
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Girl em[Power]ment – A Series of Short Essays.
Over the next few months Flancake.co will be bringing you the Girl em[Power]ment series, which consists of interviews with several working women of all ages in different stages of their career. These are women I not only find inspiring and interesting, but who I think women of all ages should know about and learn from. These women hold careers in several different industries, from creative design to politics.They’ll give us an inside look into what their job is like, how they got there, share their advice for twenty-somethings, and touch on what Girl em[Power]ment means to them.
Our next influencer is a fellow blogger + gal full of creativeness + millennial who’s killing the game, Ashley Moline. I met Ashley through my sorority, ZTA and also through our majors. I’ve followed her journey as she’s blogged, showcased her fab outfits, and changed her [so-fun] hair color. She’s truly a kind spirit, and I’m so excited to share with you all what she had to say.
Introducing Ashley Moline, of Shop Riffraff + Charlie Southern.
Insta – @apmoline
Blog – Ashley’s Paige [she’s in the process of revamping, so stay tuned for the update in the new year!]
Q: What is your current job title, and can you please briefly explain your career path?
A: I am currently the Photographer and Graphic Designer for Shopriffraff.com [Riffraff Fayetteville and Dallas] as well as for our sister company, Charlie Southern. I started with the company almost 4 years ago working as a Shop Girl, or sales associate, for Riffraff Fayetteville. After working in this position, I quickly worked my way up to the Stylist and Visuals Store Manager–with this position I managed the store front and took care of all visuals on the floor such as visual merchandising, window displays, and in-store styling.
While holding these positions, Riffraff launched it’s online store, Shopriffraff.com. Upon graduation in 2014, I accepted a full-time position with the company working for the fairly new online store. My first position in the Riffraff HQ was the Lifestyle Content and Visuals Manager. In this position I continued working on the sales floor doing visual displays and running the Riffraff Fayetteville Instagram account as well as now running the Shopriffraff.com blog site.
As far as Lifestyle Content went, I would post style blogs and write-up creative blurbs for our merchandise, help out with large photo shoot campaigns [for example: find locations and compile props for the shoot], and anything else that fell into the Lifestyle of Riffraff. After some time in the position, I stopped visuals with the store and began only working in the headquarters. I am now the photographer/graphic designer for anything Riffraff and Charlie Southern. My main duties include marketing for Shopriffraff.com, Riffraff Fayetteville and Dallas, and Charlie Southern. I photograph all new merchandise for both websites, as well as create marketing graphics for the Shopriffraff and Charlie Southern Instagram accounts, and photograph all campaign shoots.
Q: Where did you go to school and what was your major?
A: I attended the University of Arkansas where I completed a Bachelor of Science degree in Apparel Studies: Merchandising and Product Development.
Q: How do you deal with negativity towards women in the work place [if at all]?
A: I am fortunate enough to work for a company that is all about women em[power]memt. Everyday [at work] I am surround by young women who push each other and motivate each other to be the best girl boss that one can be. Although there is no negativity towards women in my place of work, I know that it exists. I think the best way to handle negativity, in any situation, is to be above it. To work with confidence and know your own self-worth is a powerful thing–a powerful thing that can push negativity out the door.
Q: Who are your mentors or role models, and why?
A: As cliché as is sounds, my number one role models are my parents. Maybe one of my answers should be Anna Wintour or another powerhouse woman in the fashion industry, but the truth is, she didn’t teach me my value or self-worth. She didn’t teach me how to ride a bike or how to tie my shoes. She didn’t help me with my math homework or tell me “I can do anything I set my mind to”. Yes, she did teach me much about fashion through volumes and volumes of Vogue magazines, but she didn’t teach me hard work. I learned that through years of watching my mom and dad raise 3 children. They fed us, put us through school, encouraged us, and loved us, all while working extremely hard to provide a life for the 3 of us. Again, as cliché as is sounds, I wouldn’t be anywhere without their unfailing love and support. The two people who taught me and continue to teach me everyday that hard word, humility, and Jesus are the keys success, will always be my number one role models. Them and Jennifer Lawrence, of course.
Q: Have you ever felt unsure of yourself or felt that you weren’t “enough”, and how did you overcome that?
A: Everyday. In a world filled with competition, negativity, and much self-doubt–feeling like, “I’m not skinny enough” or “I’m not smart enough”–it’s hard to not feel like you’re not good enough. This is an issue that many people face, not just in the work place, but in life. I’m in the time of my life where I have to start becoming an “adult”. I am a recent grad, I live on my own, and I have a job… thankfully. Most people my age are going through the process of job searching and that alone can be extremely tough. Application after application, not getting a call back, or not even getting the interview at all can fill a person with a lot of self-doubt. Thankfully, like I said, I have a job… So I’m not feeling the pressure of that however, that doesn’t mean I don’t have the feeling of not being good enough.
There are many days I feel like I don’t have what it takes to be in the industry that I am in. It’s competitive, everyone wants to be the best, and this pressure can start to weigh on you. How do I deal with it? I remind myself that I have purpose. I remind myself that I was given certain talents and to channel those talents. I remind myself that I am not anyone else and that’s okay. I have my own skill sets and my own goals and how I use them and how I reach them is up to me. Overcoming the feeling of not being “enough” isn’t easy and it will probably never go away. But the best thing is to remember that everyone feels this way at least once in their lifetime, even Kanye West.
Q: What are other things you do [hobbies, projects, interest] that you feel passionate about?
A: I love design. In more ways than one, but in this instance I’m talking about Interior Design. Before making the decision to pursue a degree in Apparel Studies, I thought heavily about going to school for Interior Design. I really enjoy working on my own apartment or helping others create their own space. I’ll spend hours creating a “Future Home” Pinterest board, binge watching HGTV, and dreaming up the perfect space that I will call home one day. I am also really into photography. I’m practically addicted to Instagram and I spend more time thinking about the perfect Instagram photo than I do things that actually matter.
Q: What do you do in your free time to relax?
A: Binge watch Netflix. Right now I’m on a kick watching Friday Night Lights, thanks to everyone at work. Also, as silly as it sounds, I like to daydream. There’s just something about escaping for a while that can really relax a person and also fuel their creativity.
Q: What career and/or life advice would you give to your twenty-year-old self?
A: I’ve heard a quote before. One that I think… No, one that I know every 20-year-old can relate to: “Your twenties: The era when you gotta make sh*t happen but all you wanna do is chill.” I can’t even tell you how often this quote runs through my head. Life would be a lot easier if things were just handed to you, but like my dad always told me growing up, you won’t get anything if you don’t work for it. And yes, while life would be a lot easier if things were handed to you, would it be worth it? Probably not. If you don’t work for it, you don’t deserve it and there for, you can’t be proud of it. Now, I’m sure my twenty-year-old advice might not stay the same as I get older because I have a lot to learn between now and then and I will make many mistakes during that time. However, the most important thing is that I learn from them and make better mistakes tomorrow, and I say better because I will always make them.
I think the most important advice that I can give to myself [and to others] is to be confident, slow down but always work hard, and take time for my/yourself. I often have to remind myself that I am only 22. I tend to be hard on myself and sometimes wonder, “Where are you going in life?!” I feel that “at my age” I should be further along than I am, and I start to look at the success of others and compare mine to theirs. As they say, “confidence is key”, and it’s important to remember that and to know that everyone’s path is different. Your success is determined by how hard you work, not how hard others work. So with confidence and extreme hard work I believe you can achieve anything however, it’s important to set your own pace. Don’t worry about who is climbing that ladder faster than you, worry about how you’re climbing the ladder. Take time for yourself, enjoy life, and climb the ladder with pride in your own hard work. And always remember that sometimes it’s okay to just chill.
Q: What does Girl em[Power]ment mean to you?
A: To me, Girl em[Power]ment means knowing our value and self-worth. Realizing that we are just as capable as anyone else in this world and that our potential is limitless. And the key to our potential lies in becoming a Proverbs 31 woman. “She is clothed in strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.” Proverbs 31:25
Hearing from other twenty-somethings is always something I love because they really do seem to all agree that its ok to take a breather and chiiillllll. We can all agree that we need more of that, right?
Stay tuned for the next influencer + be sure to follow the @GirlEmpowerment insta!
Xo, Flancake
Girl em[Power]ment – A Series of Short Essays.
Over the next few months Flancake.co will be bringing you the Girl em[Power]ment series, which consists of interviews with several working women of all ages in different stages of their career. These are women I not only find inspiring and interesting, but who I think women of all ages should know about and learn from. These women hold careers in several different industries, from creative design to politics. They’ll give us an inside look into what their job is like, how they got there, share their advice for twenty-somethings, and touch on what Girl em[Power]ment means to them.
Our next influencer is Amanda Shapin, whom I was able to meet through my internship this summer. The other interns and I were able to help her with a few projects during our internships and got to know her. She so graciously helped and reviewed a project I had during the job, and I was also able to learn about the healthy lifestyle she pursues – all while balancing a demanding career. I’m so excited for you all to read Amanda’s advice, as it shows that you really can balance work and play, and that we can all rise to the top in our own way.
Introducing Amanda Shapin, of Seventeen Magazine + Shapin’ Up
Blog- Shapinup.com
Insta- @shapinup
Q: What is your current job title, and can you please briefly explain your career path?
A: I’m the Senior Manager of Integrated Marketing at Seventeen. During college I had a number of Editorial internships [InStyle and Self to name two] and after graduating and moving to NYC I landed a job in the marketing department at Lucky Magazine. I spent two years at Lucky and then made a change, trying my hand in television. I did consumer marketing at Bravo and at IFC for a few years before about a year ago, returning to the magazine world at Seventeen.
Q: Where did you go to school and what was your major?
A: I went to the University of Michigan [go blue!] and majored in psychology and communications.
Q: How do you deal with negativity towards women in the work place [if at all]?
A: Fortunately, I have not had much of an issue with negativity towards women in the workplace. The industries I’ve worked in are very female-dominated so in my career thus far I’ve been surrounded by very strong and successful women.
Q: Have you ever felt unsure of yourself or felt that you weren’t “enough”, and how did you overcome that?
A: Absolutely….like all the time. It’s easy to compare yourself to others and think that you don’t stack up. This is especially true with social media, everyone around you seems like they are living a perfect life while you may feel like you are struggling. I try to remind myself that people are projecting their best selves via social and you have no idea what is happening behind the scenes.
In terms of work, there is something known as the “imposter syndrome”, that despite actually being quite competent, you feel like a fraud and that you don’t deserve the success you’ve achieved. I used to think like this a lot, questioning am I any good at what I do? Is everyone around me more competent and better at their job? I had a conversation about this with some of my girlfriends [who are all very successful!] and was relieved to find out that I wasn’t the only one feeling this way. This was a couple of years ago, and since learning that this is a common feeling, I have risen above it, reminding myself that I am competent, I am smart, and I am a valuable employee.
Q: What are other things you do [hobbies, projects, interest] that you feel passionate about?
A: I think it is super important to find things outside of work that you are passionate about. If you are 100% passionate about your job, that is great, but it’s also key to have interests outside of your office.
I’m passionate about fitness and healthy living. This side passion has turned into a mini career, I teach cycling classes in the morning before work and I run the blog ShapinUp.com. It makes for a hectic and exhausting schedule trying to balance my job, teaching and blogging, but I love it and it makes the lack of sleep worth it.
Q: Is there anyone you think that is making a difference in women empowerment that you think we should all know about?
A: Two women that I think are making a difference are Sheryl Sandberg and Mindy Kaling. If you haven’t read it yet, get your hands on a Lean In. While not everything will apply to you and your career path, every woman can take away something important. It teaches you to make moves in your career, sit at the table, have your voice heard and achieve your goals.
And Mindy Kaling, well I just love her. She’s a perfect example of working hard to get where you want to be. She had big dreams that she went after. She’s a role model for confidence and not backing down. I loved her first book and Why Not Me is next on my list.
Q: What do you do in your free time to relax?
A: When relaxing, you’ll either find me on a walk with my pup Ollie, out for a run in Central Park, testing out a new recipe or catching up on embarrassing TV shows like The Bachelor or anything on Bravo.
Q: What career and/or life advice would you give to your twenty-year-old self?
A: I would tell my 20 year old self to chill out. My senior year of college I was freaking out about finding a job. In magazines, you can’t find a job in advance, something has to be open and you have to be there, ready to start, so worrying in January was getting me nowhere, finding a job would have to wait until graduation. Of course I encourage everyone to start making connections early, but make them about genuinely meeting new people and exploring career paths, less so about landing a job right off the bat.
And along with that, I wish I had taken some time after graduating before immediately moving to NYC. I was so focused on getting to the city; I feared that if I took any time off after graduating, all the good jobs would be taken. I moved to NYC about a week after graduating and took the first job I was offered. It had nothing to do with my desired career path and I was miserable, I quit less than two months later. Looking back, I wish I had given myself a couple of months to travel and explore before moving to the city. I also wish I wasn’t so freaked out about getting a job that I was willing to take any job. While I don’t suggest being super picky when searching for your first job [I mean we have to pay the bills and eat after all!], I don’t recommend jumping into something due to fear. Think carefully about the job you want and how it will help your future. And don’t freak out, something will work out!
Q: What does Girl em[Power]ment mean to you?
A: Girl em[Power]ment to me is standing strong, believing in yourself, knowing you are enough, and also helping out your fellow girl! There’s enough success for all of us, don’t feel like you have to outdo your competition, we can all rise to the top in our own way.
Hopefully we can all follow Amanda’s advice to make genuine connections, find things outside of work that you’re passionate about, and also believe in yourself – as it’s something we probably all struggle with in some way. Keep following along to hear from our next Girl em[Power]ment series influencer!
Xo, Flancake
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