Girl em[Power]ment – Chloe Curnel

Girl em[Power]ment – A Series of Short Essays.

Over the next few months Flancake.co will be bringing you the Girl em[Power]ment series, which consists of interviews with several working women of all ages in different stages of their career. These are women I not only find inspiring and interesting, but who I think women of all ages should know about and learn from. These women hold careers in several different industries, from creative design to politics.They’ll give us an inside look into what their job is like, how they got there, share their advice for twenty-somethings, and touch on what Girl em[Power]ment means to them.

[be sure to follow along on insta for updates – @girlempowerment]

Our next influencer is a fellow blogger, and a gal with serious style–Chloe Curnel. I’ve been following Chloe on insta for a few years now, after initially seeing her fab style via a boutique she worked at. It’s been so fun following along as she’s graduated, moved to a new place + started a cool job, and recently got engaged! Keep reading to learn more about this fab fashionista who’s with it.

Introducing Chloe Curnel, of Dillard’s Corporate 
Insta – @chloeelisec
Blog – Nomad en Vogue

Q: What is your current job title, and can you please briefly explain your career path?
A: I am a fashion stylist for Dillard’s corporate advertising. I graduated from the University of Arkansas in 2013. Before graduation, I went through the career center at the University and interviewed for Dillard’s Executive Development Program (EDP). I landed the job and in June, started working in the Div. 4 buying office as an assistant buyer as part of the program. Phase two of the program, I was sent to work as an Area Sales Manager at the Dillard’s flagship store in Little Rock. It was when I was out at the store that I decided I did not want to return to the buying office. So I left the program, and voiced to upper managment that I wanted to work in the advertising department. I interviewed with the Vice-President of Advertising, Creative Director, and Studio director at Dillard’s and was offered the position of fashion stylist this past January.

Q: Where did you go to school and what was your major?
A: I was an apparel studies major at the University of Arkansas.

Q: How do you deal with negativity towards women in the work place [if at all]?
A: Luckily, I haven’t many encounters with this, but I am a firm believer in actions speak louder than words. Work hard, be kind, be professional, and that is what will make you successful in your career. Don’t give anyone a reason to treat you differently just because your a women. A co-worker gave me some wise advice. She said that “As women, we have to build each other up. Make each other stronger, and praise each other for accomplishment.” This is SO true and SO important. Women have a tendency of letting envy and jealousy get the best of them in the workplace. We can’t do that, we have to stick together and help each other learn and grow.

Q: Who are your mentors or role models, and why?
A: My mom, Karen Curnel, for her caring and loving spirit, and her ability to follow her passions. She just decided to take up horseback riding in her fifties! She is not afraid to try something new.

My sister, Kelly Stuckey. She is driven, artistic, and stays true to herself. She has the most giving spirit and makes an amazing leader. It has been so inspiring to see her career path grow. [see Kelly’s profile here]

My old boss and dear friend, Becca Brisiel. She also, has such a kind, giving spirit. She was the best boss I will ever have. She lead by example. She taught me the importance of staying true to yourself, as well as the importance of kindness in the workplace and giving back to your community.

Q: Have you ever felt unsure of yourself or felt that you weren’t “enough”, and how did you overcome that?
A: When I was working as an area sales manager at Dillard’s, I had multiple times where I felt unsure about my managing skills. I had 18 employees under me, and at times, was in charge of the whole store. I had employees of all ages and backgrounds, and sometimes it was difficult for me to be confident, demand respect, and feel in charge. I am by nature not a confrontational person, and being a manger puts you in some confrontational situations where there is a need to be authoritative. I had to overcome the fact the I was young and lacked experience. Everyday I learned something new about my team and myself. When I would make a mistake, I would do my best to learn from it. I sought out help from my bosses and fellow co-workers when I needed it, asking “How would you handle this situation?”. I learned that I couldn’t manage everyone the same and that it would take different tactics to gain respect from my employees. It was the most difficult job I think I will ever have to do, but it is the job that taught me the most.

Q: What are other things you do [hobbies, projects, interest] that you feel passionate about?
A: Yoga, photography, fashion, antique shopping. I also have a style blog called Nomad en Vogue. It is just a hobby, but it is a great creative outlet. I’m planning a wedding right now, which has turned into my biggest hobby, or should I say “time consumer” at the moment! Hah!

Q: Is there anyone you think that is making a difference in women empowerment that you think we should all know about?
A: My sister, Kelly Stuckey! She owns a small business in Fayetteville called Crown Beauty Bar. She empowers women everyday at work and through social media!

Q: What do you do in your free time to relax?
A: Just give me HGTV, a glass of wine and some cheese. Just kidding! But, not really. I love to antique shop, usually alone. I could wander around looking at antiques forever. But I feel the most relaxed when I’m with my fiance and our dog, Bella.

Q: What career and/or life advice would you give to your twenty-year-old self?
A: Don’t sweat the small things, and don’t worry about what you can’t control. Also, don’t worry so much about what others think because you can’t make everyone happy. Stay true to who you are, be kind, work hard, and always look for the positive. Also, take care of your body and wear sunscreen everyday because the wrinkles will come!

Q: What does Girl em[Power]ment mean to you?
A: Girl em[Power]ment is all about us gals supporting each other and building each other up. The internet is can be such a positive or negative tool. With all the negativity that resides on social media, it is SO important for girls to take a stand and not take part in it. Life is hard enough, we need to use the tools we have to empower one another.

As Chloe said, it’s so important to support each other + build each other up, which really is what Girl em[Power]ment is all about!! Stay tuned for the next influencer, and be sure to follow along on our insta–@girlempowerment.

[graphic by the talented Courtney Ulrich]

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Girl em[Power]ment – Kelly Stuckey

Girl em[Power]ment – A Series of Short Essays.

Over the next few months Flancake.co will be bringing you the Girl em[Power]ment series, which consists of interviews with several working women of all ages in different stages of their career. These are women I not only find inspiring and interesting, but who I think women of all ages should know about and learn from. These women hold careers in several different industries, from creative design to politics. They’ll give us an inside look into what their job is like, how they got there, share their advice for twenty-somethings, and touch on what Girl em[Power]ment means to them.

[be sure to follow along on insta – @girlempowerment]

Our next influencer is someone I’m so excited to share with you all, as she was one of the inspirations for the entire Girl em[Power]ment series!! I have known Kelly Stuckey for about four years now, when I first met her via instagram stalking and just HAD to get her to help my hair. She has a heart of gold, she is a giving soul like none I’ve ever seen, and her strong faith  inspires those around her, myself included. Oh, and she’s a small business owner + wife + puppy mom, to all of which she excels tremendously. Those around her feel her radiance on a daily basis, which is why I’m so glad she is today’s influencer.

Introducing Kelly Stuckey, owner of Crown Beauty Bar 
Insta – @hellokellystuckey + @crownbeautybar
Website – CrownBeautyBar + SheSitsPretty

Q: What is your current job title, and can you please briefly explain your career path?
A: My current title is Senior Hairstylist, makeup artist and co-owner of Crown Beauty Bar with my husband, Zac Stuckey.  I am also a certified educator for Davines Hair Color and She by Socap Hair Extensions. My career path started at a young age of 14 working for my Dad’s photography studio and has taken so many turns from salon receptionist to Interior Designer to PepsiCo modular planner to CitiScapes advertising sales to restaurant hostess while attending beauty school and now a small business owner.  It’s incredible and encouraging to see the way it has all come together in my life, and how each step paved the way for the next.  Every place I worked I met people who played into my next role and even met my husband along the way!

Q: Where did you go to school and what was your major?
A: I first attended the University of Arkansas Fort Smith and received an Associates of Art.  Then I transferred to the University of Arkansas and graduated with a Bachelors of Interior Design.  Three years later I attended Paul Mitchell The School Arkansas for my Cosmetology License.

Q: How do you deal with negativity towards women in the work place [if at all]?
A: Thankfully I work in a female dominant environment where we get along and lift each other up!  The most negativity I ever deal with is when a client doesn’t like things about their own hair and or looks.  I love enhancing each woman’s individual beauty and teaching them ways to carry that home.  I want to shatter any negative images they have about themselves.

Q: Who are your role models or mentors, and why?
A: My first impactful role model is my Mother, Karen.  She was and still is always there for me.  I know stories of how she worked hard and did what she could to provide and take care of me after my parents split at a young age.  She always made me feel beautiful and supported especially during times when I struggled with my weight, career, or life choices. 

I’ve also been blessed with a Spiritual mentor, Kristen Davis, pastor at Life Connection Church in Rogers, AR. She came along at the perfect time in my life, helped me see the power of Jesus’ love and grace, and was instrumental in helping me learn more about how to study the Bible.

I would say my biggest mentor is my husband, Zac. He is a strong, steady constant in my life and has a true servant heart.  He pushes me to be better and is always incredibly supportive.  It’s incredibly cheesy to say, but he does make me feel like anything is possible so long as we do it together; he gives me wings! I love owning a business with him, doing life, and can’t wait to become a parent with him next April!!!

Q: Have you ever felt unsure of yourself or felt that you weren’t “enough”, and how did you overcome that?
A: Oh yes, a lot when I was younger. In fact, I still struggle with this insecurity from time to time. I didn’t know my true identity until I really let God into my life and got serious about pursuing a relationship with Jesus at age 28. Anytime I allow the lies of this world to fill my mind, I stumble into insecurity. I remind myself the truth is I was made by God and for his purposes… before I understood that, nothing made sense.  Now I read and reflect on what his Word says about me for affirmation on who I am.

Q: Is there anyone you think that is making a difference in women empowerment that you think we should all know about?
A: It’s amazing to live in a community with so many female small business owners and creatives in my local community!  Here’s a few businesses to check out: Kirsten Blowers owner of Riffraff, Amy Hannon of EunaMae’s, Valere Gregory of Valere Rene Handbags, Becca Brisiel of Maude Boutique, Chelsea Hermez of Pigmint. Another woman shaking things up in California is Shanna Noel, creator of Illustrated Faith, helping creative women express themselves and learn more about God’s Word through a journaling bible.

Q: What do you do in your free time to relax?
A: Walk my dogs, jeep rides with my husband, read, doodle in my journaling bible, zone out on social media.

Q: What career and/or life advice would you give to your twenty-year-old self?
A: Be patient, work hard, do not expect anything, and be thankful for every opportunity to learn. We all graduate and think “okay, I made it.. now where is my awesome job and salary?” It’s just not that easy all the time!  I truly believe in hard, honest work and being a self-starter.  The other thing is: your 20’s are just awkward!  I had so much fun in my 20’s, but so much confusing unknown too.  It’s not that I have it all figured out in my 30’s now, but I am more secure in myself and truly trust God has plans for me.

Q: What does Girl em[Power]ment mean to you?
A: Girl em[Power]ment means looking past the stereotypes created by the world and other people to see who I am and what God created me to be.  I have been given gifts and talents to use to help others and it’s up to me to make that happen with every opportunity that I am presented with! I love working in an industry where I can make women feel beautiful and teach them tricks they can use at home to create their look on a daily basis.  I also want to empower my employees to be self-starters, find the lesson in every situation, and take ownership of the career and life they have a heart for.  You can’t sit and wait for everything to fall into your lap.  You gotta hustle while keeping your eyes and ears open.

All I can add is that this is so good. As I myself will soon be graduating, it is easy to just assume that I’m a graduate so I should be able to easily find that awesome job and even more-awesome paycheck. But as Kelly said, “you gotta hustle while keeping your eyes and ears open.”
Stay tuned for next week’s influencer–these ladies just keep rocking it!
Xo, Flancake

Girl em[Power]ment – Hope Cavell

Girl em[Power]ment – A Series of Short Essays.

Over the next few months Flancake.co will be bringing you the Girl em[Power]ment series, which consists of interviews with several working women of all ages in different stages of their career. These are women I not only find inspiring and interesting, but who I think women of all ages should know about and learn from. These women hold careers in several different industries, from creative design to politics. They’ll give us an inside look into what their job is like, how they got there, share their advice for twenty-somethings, and touch on what Girl em[Power]ment means to them.

[be sure to follow along on insta – @girlempowerment]

I’m so excited to be sharing with you all our next influencer, Hope Cavell. I’ve known this fab + funny gal for about three-ish years now, first through school and then through working together at Lola. She’s a ball to be around, and always exudes kindness + confidence, with such creativity and grace it’s hard to not have if rub off on you.

Introducing Hope Cavell, of Lola Boutique
Insta – @hopecavelll + @lolaboutique

Q: What is your current job title, and can you please briefly explain your career path?
A: I am the store manager at Lola in Fayetteville, Arkansas and also work as a stylist under my own name doing closets, etc. Within Lola, I dabble in social media and visuals [you often wear many hats in a small business!] I started working retail when I was 16 and have been doing so ever since. I’m lucky enough to have worked at two fabulous local boutiques prior to Lola. Different products, different clientele…but always fashion forward women’s clothing. My career path is foggy right now but I hope to transfer from the retail sector of things to more styling and creative work. 

Q: Where did you go to school and what was your major?
A: I went to the University of Arkansas and majored in Apparel Studies and Product Development. I also have a minor in Beer.

Q: How do you deal with negativity towards women in the work place [if at all]?
A: Overall, I’m a glass-half-full gal so I have that working for me. Sometimes you can ignore it and other times you can’t. Those times that you cannot, it may be time to reevaluate your situation or talk to someone in charge. Sometimes a little bit of action is all that’s needed. I’ve yet to be exposed to a male heavy work environment where women feel that negative pressure…let’s hope I never do!

Q: Who are your role models or mentors, and why?
A: My parents. They are amazing. And Lena Dunham.

Q: Have you ever felt unsure of yourself or felt that you weren’t “enough”, and how did you overcome that?
A: Yes….who hasn’t!? I still struggle with this. Comparing myself to others gets me in a dark place sometimes. I have to yank myself out of it and remember that everyone’s path is different and I am on the right one for me.

Q: What are other things you do [hobbies, projects, interest] that you feel passionate about?
A: Fashion, art, friends and family. 

Q: Is there anyone you think that is making a difference in women empowerment that you think we should all know about?
A: As earlier mentioned– Lena Dunham. She is smart but that creative smart that makes you think and laugh and feel. I don’t always agree with her politics or opinions but I respect her and look up to her for them. She’s taken her fame and created this platform for young women….that being themselves and having their own opinions is cool and sexy. Because it is!! Check out her newest venture in all this– Lenny Letter– an online newsletter via email.

Q: What do you do in your free time to relax?
A: Sometimes it’s a glass of wine, chatting with my momma while loving on my dog. Other times it’s a run outside full of explicit rap music.

Q: What does Girl em[Power]ment meant to you?
A: Lifting one-another up. That is so cornball but true. Girls are too hard on themselves so anytime you find yourself thinking something nice about someone, tell ’em! We all are going through hard stuff so spreading the girl power is vital. I think about my mom, my sister, my friends, my coworkers…So. Many. Bad. Bitches. I am truly inspired everyday and made better because of them.

Girl em[Power]ment – Ashley Moline

Girl em[Power]ment – A Series of Short Essays.

Over the next few months Flancake.co will be bringing you the Girl em[Power]ment series, which consists of interviews with several working women of all ages in different stages of their career. These are women I not only find inspiring and interesting, but who I think women of all ages should know about and learn from. These women hold careers in several different industries, from creative design to politics.They’ll give us an inside look into what their job is like, how they got there, share their advice for twenty-somethings, and touch on what Girl em[Power]ment means to them.

Our next influencer is a fellow blogger + gal full of creativeness + millennial who’s killing the game, Ashley Moline. I met Ashley through my sorority, ZTA and also through our majors. I’ve followed her journey as she’s blogged, showcased her fab outfits, and changed her [so-fun] hair color. She’s truly a kind spirit, and I’m so excited to share with you all what she had to say.

Introducing Ashley Moline, of Shop Riffraff + Charlie Southern.
Insta – @apmoline
Blog – Ashley’s Paige [she’s in the process of revamping, so stay tuned for the update in the new year!]

Q: What is your current job title, and can you please briefly explain your career path?
A: I am currently the Photographer and Graphic Designer for Shopriffraff.com [Riffraff Fayetteville and Dallas] as well as for our sister company, Charlie Southern. I started with the company almost 4 years ago working as a Shop Girl, or sales associate, for Riffraff Fayetteville. After working in this position, I quickly worked my way up to the Stylist and Visuals Store Manager–with this position I managed the store front and took care of all visuals on the floor such as visual merchandising, window displays, and in-store styling.

While holding these positions, Riffraff launched it’s online store, Shopriffraff.com. Upon graduation in 2014, I accepted a full-time position with the company working for the fairly new online store. My first position in the Riffraff HQ was the Lifestyle Content and Visuals Manager. In this position I continued working on the sales floor doing visual displays and running the Riffraff Fayetteville Instagram account as well as now running the Shopriffraff.com blog site.

As far as Lifestyle Content went, I would post style blogs and write-up creative blurbs for our merchandise, help out with large photo shoot campaigns [for example: find locations and compile props for the shoot], and anything else that fell into the Lifestyle of Riffraff. After some time in the position, I stopped visuals with the store and began only working in the headquarters. I am now the photographer/graphic designer for anything Riffraff and Charlie Southern. My main duties include marketing for Shopriffraff.com, Riffraff Fayetteville and Dallas, and Charlie Southern. I photograph all new merchandise for both websites, as well as create marketing graphics for the Shopriffraff and Charlie Southern Instagram accounts, and photograph all campaign shoots.

Q: Where did you go to school and what was your major?
A: I attended the University of Arkansas where I completed a Bachelor of Science degree in Apparel Studies: Merchandising and Product Development.

Q: How do you deal with negativity towards women in the work place [if at all]?
A: I am fortunate enough to work for a company that is all about women em[power]memt. Everyday [at work] I am surround by young women who push each other and motivate each other to be the best girl boss that one can be. Although there is no negativity towards women in my place of work, I know that it exists. I think the best way to handle negativity, in any situation, is to be above it. To work with confidence and know your own self-worth is a powerful thing–a powerful thing that can push negativity out the door.

Q: Who are your mentors or role models, and why?
A: As cliché as is sounds, my number one role models are my parents. Maybe one of my answers should be Anna Wintour or another powerhouse woman in the fashion industry, but the truth is, she didn’t teach me my value or self-worth. She didn’t teach me how to ride a bike or how to tie my shoes. She didn’t help me with my math homework or tell me “I can do anything I set my mind to”. Yes, she did teach me much about fashion through volumes and volumes of Vogue magazines, but she didn’t teach me hard work. I learned that through years of watching my mom and dad raise 3 children. They fed us, put us through school, encouraged us, and loved us, all while working extremely hard to provide a life for the 3 of us. Again, as cliché as is sounds, I wouldn’t be anywhere without their unfailing love and support. The two people who taught me and continue to teach me everyday that hard word, humility, and Jesus are the keys success, will always be my number one role models. Them and Jennifer Lawrence, of course.

Q: Have you ever felt unsure of yourself or felt that you weren’t “enough”, and how did you overcome that?
A: Everyday. In a world filled with competition, negativity, and much self-doubt–feeling like, “I’m not skinny enough” or “I’m not smart enough”–it’s hard to not feel like you’re not good enough. This is an issue that many people face, not just in the work place, but in life. I’m in the time of my life where I have to start becoming an “adult”. I am a recent grad, I live on my own, and I have a job… thankfully. Most people my age are going through the process of job searching and that alone can be extremely tough. Application after application, not getting a call back, or not even getting the interview at all can fill a person with a lot of self-doubt. Thankfully, like I said, I have a job… So I’m not feeling the pressure of that however, that doesn’t mean I don’t have the feeling of not being good enough.

There are many days I feel like I don’t have what it takes to be in the industry that I am in. It’s competitive, everyone wants to be the best, and this pressure can start to weigh on you. How do I deal with it? I remind myself that I have purpose. I remind myself that I was given certain talents and to channel those talents. I remind myself that I am not anyone else and that’s okay. I have my own skill sets and my own goals and how I use them and how I reach them is up to me. Overcoming the feeling of not being “enough” isn’t easy and it will probably never go away. But the best thing is to remember that everyone feels this way at least once in their lifetime, even Kanye West.

Q: What are other things you do [hobbies, projects, interest] that you feel passionate about?
A: I love design. In more ways than one, but in this instance I’m talking about Interior Design. Before making the decision to pursue a degree in Apparel Studies, I thought heavily about going to school for Interior Design. I really enjoy working on my own apartment or helping others create their own space. I’ll spend hours creating a “Future Home” Pinterest board, binge watching HGTV, and dreaming up the perfect space that I will call home one day. I am also really into photography. I’m practically addicted to Instagram and I spend more time thinking about the perfect Instagram photo than I do things that actually matter.

Q: What do you do in your free time to relax?
A: Binge watch Netflix. Right now I’m on a kick watching Friday Night Lights, thanks to everyone at work. Also, as silly as it sounds, I like to daydream. There’s just something about escaping for a while that can really relax a person and also fuel their creativity.

Q: What career and/or life advice would you give to your twenty-year-old self?
A: I’ve heard a quote before. One that I think… No, one that I know every 20-year-old can relate to: “Your twenties: The era when you gotta make sh*t happen but all you wanna do is chill.” I can’t even tell you how often this quote runs through my head. Life would be a lot easier if things were just handed to you, but like my dad always told me growing up, you won’t get anything if you don’t work for it. And yes, while life would be a lot easier if things were handed to you, would it be worth it? Probably not. If you don’t work for it, you don’t deserve it and there for, you can’t be proud of it. Now, I’m sure my twenty-year-old advice might not stay the same as I get older because I have a lot to learn between now and then and I will make many mistakes during that time. However, the most important thing is that I learn from them and make better mistakes tomorrow, and I say better because I will always make them.

I think the most important advice that I can give to myself [and to others] is to be confident, slow down but always work hard, and take time for my/yourself. I often have to remind myself that I am only 22. I tend to be hard on myself and sometimes wonder, “Where are you going in life?!” I feel that “at my age” I should be further along than I am, and I start to look at the success of others and compare mine to theirs. As they say, “confidence is key”, and it’s important to remember that and to know that everyone’s path is different. Your success is determined by how hard you work, not how hard others work. So with confidence and extreme hard work I believe you can achieve anything however, it’s important to set your own pace. Don’t worry about who is climbing that ladder faster than you, worry about how you’re climbing the ladder. Take time for yourself, enjoy life, and climb the ladder with pride in your own hard work. And always remember that sometimes it’s okay to just chill.

Q: What does Girl em[Power]ment mean to you?
A: To me, Girl em[Power]ment means knowing our value and self-worth. Realizing that we are just as capable as anyone else in this world and that our potential is limitless. And the key to our potential lies in becoming a Proverbs 31 woman. “She is clothed in strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.” Proverbs 31:25

Hearing from other twenty-somethings is always something I love because they really do seem to all agree that its ok to take a breather and chiiillllll. We can all agree that we need more of that, right?

Stay tuned for the next influencer + be sure to follow the @GirlEmpowerment insta!
Xo, Flancake

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About this weekend// Part Two.

For the continuation of my weekend, I’ll start with Saturday, which was ahhh-mazig. Be warned-it’s a little lengthy, but worth reading every word I swear!

It was an early wake up call, with Fun Fearless Life starting at 8:30, Mom and I had to catch an Uber by 8, after getting a Chai Tea Latte of course. When we arrived at the venue, first of all I was dying inside because Lincoln Center is where fashion week is held, so you could say it was surreal. When we walked in, we were greeted by possibly the coolest technology ever. At an Ipad, you were to enter your Facebook, Twitter, Email, or other social media information as to connect to a system. This system then took all your sharing info and somehow transferred this onto a small bracelet that you could tap on a circle device to share a picture you took at one of the stations. Make sense? After figuring this cool thing out, I decided to go upstairs to the area where all kinds of fun things were happening, and get my pic done so I could share it on this new technology!

Maybelline was one of the sponsors for Fun Fearless Life, so they had a makeup station set up where you could get your makeup done, touched up, or just gain some knowledge about their new products! After looking around at this station, I decided to go to the Express station, which was another sponsor. At this station, we got a coupon to obtain a small tech clutch-let me translate-this tech clutch has a phone charger attached on the inside so you can party as long as you can handle, and still have a phone that works, too cool right? Express also had their new holiday collection out for us to take in, which was so pretty I must add. After this station, I headed over to the Cosmo booth, which was selling books from all the speakers and Cosmo merchandise. Clearly I had to buy a Fearless tank, for obvious reasons.

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Pause for a minute – the event hadn’t even really started at this point.

We stared to hear the ‘ding’ of the call for us to get to our seats, so on the way we passed the Spanx booth, where I got a coupon for a free pair of Spanx tights, and got a flash tat. BOOM, what a way to start the morning.

When we finally got to our seats, T-swizzle’s ‘Welcome to New York’ started blasting and scantily clad male models started making their way down the isles.

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Dying inside, I know.

Joanna Coles, Cosmo’s Editor-in-Chief came onto stage and asked us if we were ready for a “F*ing Fun Fearless Weekend”, to which we replied YEESSSS. She talked a little about how great the weekend was to be (little did I know this was an understatement), and then began introducing the first speaker, Sarah Blakely-the founder of Spanx. Sarah came on stage, of course with her Spanx underneath her dress. She talked about how she started, which you can read about here. She was literally so inspiring, to hear how no one thought her idea was profitable, yet she still pursued it, and now is the owner of a multi-million dollar company, which still aims to empower woman and make them feel like they can do anything! I have to admit, I definitely went to Dillard’s last night and bought my very first pair of Spanx, in the leather legging variety. After Sarah were three women who worked their way to the top, Sallie Krawcheck, Julie Greenwald, and Megyn Kelly. All are influencers in their field and had similarities with fighting for a job and competing with men. This panel was so interesting to me because they all agreed on one thing-if you’re pursuing a career in a man’s world, don’t think of it as a negative thing. Use what you’ve got going for you-you’re a woman so you look different than the men, and also just work 10 times harder!

The next speaker was one of my favorites (I bought her book afterwards!), Dr. Meg Jay, a clinical psychologist, speaker, and author of The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Mater and How to Make the Most of Them Now. Her goal was to make us realize that your twenties are the prime time to make the most of our lives and be the change we want to see. She also talked about how to make connections, how to utilize those connections, and how you must own ambition. Her words were so powerful to me, since I’ve wanted to move to New York and pursue a career in fashion ever since I can remember, and listening to her really made me feel so empowered-like the world really was my oyster!

We had a lunch break after these wonderful women and got a glimpse at what backstage was looking like, and got a few makeup tips from the Maybelline makeup artist. After returning from the break, first up was Amy Cuddy-another one of my absolute favorites. Her TED talk has been viewed by more than 20 million people (I highly suggest you watch it, SO worth it), she’s a Harvard Grad, and has been recognized by The New York Times, Time magazine, and Wired. Her message was all about body language, which we think about a little, but not as much as we should. Think about it-when you are about to be in a stressful situation, unless you don’t get nervous in these kind of situations, chances are you curl up into a little ball. I’m guilty as charged! She talked to us about power posing and how it can really affect your body’s hormones and the way you feel, and how much confidence it can give you. Her wise words of advise that I strongly am taking to heart are not Fake it until you make it, but rather Fake it until you BECOME it. Such powerful words were never spoke before!

Next up was Dick Costolo, CEO of Twitter, and YouTube Personality Grace Helbig, who is hilarious I might add. They talked about the power of social media, how it’s changed their life’s, and put it in perspective of how branding can really be so impactful.

Next up to the plate was a group of women who created their own careers and did what no one else thought they could! Sophia Amoruso, Founder and CEO of Nasty Gal; Windsor Hanger, Cofounder and President of Her Campus Media; and Christina Tosi, Chef, Owner and Founder of Milk Bar were up next. It was inspiring to hear this group of women tell their stories of how they made their own opportunities, struggled along the way yet still became the cream of the crop. Something I got out of their panel was if you want to start a brand or store, create desire-and the success will come. After this we got another break, where I went up to meet Sophia and get my #GIRLBOSS book signed (I’m halfway through and highly suggest this read!!). After waiting in line for what seemed like FOREVEERRR, because it was – I actually missed part of the next panel – oops – but I met Sophia! When I did, I first noticed her hair change – so cute, and told/showed her my extensions, which at the time seemed so normal but in retrospect, what was that about!?!? Oh well, she still signed my book with “Flancake is a #Girlboss”, and then we took a selfie so all was well in the world again.

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In between all this madness, I somehow saw Aya (Cosmo Fashion Director) again and said hi! This time I asked some career goal questions, along with if I could interview her (EEEP), so be on the lookout for that!! When I got back from the book signing, I was entertained by Chrissy Teigen, who I must say I was ultra envious of her mile long legs, who chatted with Logan Hill, a writer who has written for Cosmo and currently writes an Ask Logan column in Cosmo, Matthew Hussey, Mega babe extraordinaire. Wait did I just say that? I meant New York Times best-selling author-must’ve been a type ;), and Jordan Carlos, who’s graced Girl Code many a time with his hilariousness. I caught the tail end of this convo, but what I got was SO funny, to hear what guys thought of women’s tactics.

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The next group of women were presented by Maybelline, a group who has definitely climbed to the top in each industry-fashion, makeup, and entertainment. Alicia Quarels, E! News correspondent, Anne Marie Nelson-Bogle, Vice President of Maybelline New York, and Shay Mitchell, who is Emily Fields on ABC Family’s Pretty Little Liars. This group was so impressive, I could barley stand it. I loved hearing how each woman had different people tell them it wasn’t possible to achieve what they wanted, particularly Shay Mitchell. Her dream was to become an actress, so she would pretend she was one while waiting tables. It was also interesting to hear how Alicia and Anne Marie had to struggle with obstacles as women of color, and how they persevered and became some of the most influential woman in the industry.

The last lady of the hour was Tara Mohr, who took us on a journey of thinking about where we wanted to be in 20 years, which was rather exciting. She talked to us about finding our voice, finding our mission in life, and also finding our message for life. We ended the event that day with a fashion show put on by Express, showing their new holiday/party collection, which I am currently shopping/writing at the same time for.

Later that night, we went to a VIP cocktail party that was quit eventful, but I’ll save that for next time!

XX, Flancake